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Suddenly, Somehow I’m down to just wiping 1 extra butt a day?

Before I became a mom, I never considered how many times a day I would be wiping someone else’s butt. When I imagined becoming a parent I daydreamed about cute little baby outfits, snuggles and giggles. Not the diapers, massive amounts of poop, and potty training.

Dexter was ready to potty train 1 year ago, when he was 2.5 years old. I say he was ready, because I had attempted it before that and he simply wasn’t ready and things didn’t go well. So we listened to the advice of other parents and waited until Dexter was ready. One day he decided he wanted to go on the big potty and never looked back.

So after a year of going on the potty on his own, we were in a pretty normal routine. He would tell us when he had to go, he would do the deed, and then call us to help him wipe and wash his hands. But about a week ago, Dexter became very interested in being independent in the bathroom and I knew we had to jump on his enthusiasm before we lost it and were stuck wiping his butt until he went to college.

It’s been a little nerve wracking letting a 3.5 year old wipe himself, but so far he’s done a great job. And honestly I’m surprised how great it feels to only have 1 extra (the baby) butt to worry about.

Dexter also suddenly wanted to learn how to stand up to pee. Which led to some pee on the floor (and other weird places) of course but after just a few days, he got that down too. Now when we’re in a public restroom I’m not struggling to hold him on the toilet, while holding the baby, and trying not to fall over myself, and make sure no one touches anything.

We weren’t sure if he was ready to handle so much on his own in the bathroom, but clearly he is. Matt and I were a little hesitant to let Dexter do all of this on his own.  He is only three and a half years old, and he has been known to make quite the mess.  As parents it can be scary and a little frustrating when we hand over control to our little ones. But allowing Dexter to experience more independence, and take care of himself more has been very positive for him. He is proud of himself, and has more self confidence.

Now I just have to figure out how to potty train an 8 month old…

 

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True Roots (you won’t want to be DUNZO with it)

Like pretty much every other teenage girl in the 2000’s, I was obsessed with Laguna Beach, and later The Hills. The “real O.C.” was a dramatic MTV reality show that followed the lives of spoiled teenagers in Laguna Beach California. It was terribly wonderful, so naturally, my sister and I loved it.

If you watched the show too, you remember Kristin Cavallari. She was the young, beautiful, and bitchy character who was always stirring up extra drama. You loved to hate her.

Fast forward to 2019, Kristin is a pretty crunchy mom of 3. She released a cookbook in 2018, called True Roots. The book contains more than 100 recipes free of gluten, dairy, and refined sugar. Her recipes are healthy, unique, and seriously delicious.

The book begins with an explanation of ingredients and items you might want to keep stocked in your pantry and fridge. True Roots is filled with healthy recipes for salads, lunches, dinners, drinks, salad dressings, snacks, and more.

The first thing I made from this cookbook was the Caramelized Bananas. I cannot rave enough about these candy-like cooked bananas. I make them at least once a week now. The first time I made these, my husband came into the kitchen and said it smelled like I was making cinnamon rolls. They are the perfect addition to oatmeal and french toast. You basically slice and cook a ripe banana in coconut oil, vanilla extract, and cinnamon. Delicious.

The Carmelized Bananas on top of my homemade oatmeal

I have also made a Coconut Key Lime Chia Parfait, that really tasted like key lime pie. Kristin’s Date Delight Bars are also a simple and healthy snack for anyone.

True Roots is surprisingly awesome and crunchier than you might expect. Even if you didn’t indulge in her reality shows as a teenager, you can definitely still appreciate her healthy and simple recipes. This cookbook has been a great addition to our kitchen, and I highly recommend it for yours!

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Sugar Snap Peas- a toddler approved snack

Our toddler, Dexter will turn 4 years old in July. He’s intelligent, sweet, funny, and also very busy. Just like his mama, he loves to snack all day long. He will happily munch on berries, a banana, or an apple (any fruit really). Trying to get him to eat vegetables for a snack can be a little bit more of a challenge though. We recently bought some organic Sugar Snap Peas from our local health food store, and Dexter couldn’t get enough of them. He ate them raw, without any dips or sauces. Mom win!

Sugar snap peas are high in vitamin C, fiber, vitamin A, vitamin K, B vitamins and minerals.

The only thing I did to prep these sweet little green pods, was rinse them off with some water. Dexter and I ate half the bowl by ourselves in one sitting. They are crunchy, and just the right amount of sweet. They make the perfect snack, and would be great to add to a lunch box!

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Thinking Dirty

I’m thinking dirty this morning…but probably not the kind of dirty you’re thinking. I’m thinking about chemicals and other nasty things hiding in our homes! There are chemicals hiding in pretty much everything you can think of.

Things like all purpose cleaners, laundry detergent, perfume, makeup, body lotion, dish soap, and even baby products are FILLED with things that are actually causing our bodies harm. Phthalates, Perchloroethylene or “PERC”, Triclosan, Quarternary Ammonium Compounds, or “QUATS”, 2-Butoxyethanol, Parabens, Fragrence, and Triclosan are just a few of the dangers that may be hiding in your home. Here’s something else really scary- in 2009 the European Union had already banned 1,328 chemicals, while in 2018 the United States FDA has only banned 30. How is this possible? How does the EU recognize that over 1,000 toxic ingredients are dangerous, but the US only recognizes 30? There is simply no way that one ingredient is dangerous in the EU and not dangerous here.

These toxic ingredients that are still legal in the US are linked to interference with hormones and fertility problems, developmental problems in children, asthma, heart disease, obesity, diabetes, cancer, and more.

So as Americans, we must take it upon ourselves to be more educated, and make better choices for our families. Thankfully, we don’t have to be scientists or spend hours researching products and their ingredients. There are trustworthy companies we can turn to for help. The Environmental Working Group and Think Dirty are the two I most often use. I tend to favor the Think Dirty App because it feels more user friendly. You can simply scan a product, type in a product name, or search for a company and immediately see the toxicity of the products.

You will be SHOCKED at what you see. Products are given ratings based on their “cleanliness”. The lower the number, the “cleaner” and “greener” a product is. The higher the number, the more toxic it is.

Another thing to be aware of is “green washing”. This is when companies take advantage of consumers and market their products to seem “green” and “clean” when they really are not. Mrs. Meyers is a company notorious for this. Aveeno is another company that markets their products as “green” but most are not.

I very highly recommend downloading these apps and checking the things in your home. Once you know what’s hiding in your home, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed about switching everything out for healthier options. An easy way to do this, is to switch out your toxic products one or two at a time.There are SO MANY clean and healthy options out there, and they work just as good, or even better than the toxic chemical filled products. There are also companies that I have found that are commited to being clean and healthy that I know I can trust. Our family uses Young Living for many things because of this. We also use Seventh Generation and Dr. Bronners as well.

Have you started making the switch to a toxic free home? How have you done it? What made you switch? Do you have any tips for people looking to make the switch?

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Science Wednesday

For those of you that may not know, I used to be a fifth grade teacher. So as a past teacher, I am constantly looking for fun, meaningful, and educational activities to do with Dexter. I found this on the Busy Toddler Instagram.

Dexter LOVED this activity, and I already had all of the necessary materials on hand. They are probably things you have at home too. Setting this activity up took about 3 minutes. SO QUICK AND EASY. If you’re a stay at home parent, or a working parent, you can very easily do this activity at home with your little ones. It would be great to set this up for your toddler when you need to make dinner, fold a load of laundry, or just put your feet up for a few minutes. Just set this up, give them some instructions, and let your little one work, while you get a few magical minutes to yourself!

Supplies needed:
Large clear bin (to contain the mess)
Large Towel for under the bin
Muffin tin
Baking Soda
Food Dye
Vinegar
Squirt Bottle (a water bottle, or even dropper would work here too)

Put a few drops of food dye in each muffin spot, and add enough baking soda to cover the dye.

Fill your squirt bottle with half water and half vinegar.

Then let your little scientist get to work! They squirt the liquid onto the baking soda and watch the magic happen! Bubbles will appear in different colors based on the food dye you put in each container. Once Dexter figured out what was happening, he couldn’t wait to see the next color and shout out what it was.

Dexter really enjoyed this activity, and did it for about half an hour. If you’re a parent, you know that a toddler doing an activity for 30 minutes is absolute magic.

Dexter wanted to keep playing once he had revealed all of the colors. So we dumped the liquid into the large plastic bin, and he kept going. I had to refill his squirt bottle a few times, and even added more baking soda once.

We will definitely be doing this activity again! It was SO simple to set up and cleaning up was a breeze too. This gets a serious thumbs up from us!

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Homemade Hummingbird Food

Our feeders in our backyard

One of Matt’s favorite memories with our first born is when Dexter was about 8 months old. They would sit on the porch together in the morning and watch hummingbirds. We lived in Alabama at the time, and had a huge front porch with a few hummingbird feeders hanging. Matt was (and still is) an awesome husband and father. H would get Dexter his breakfast in the morning and hang out on the porch together while I got to get a little bit more sleep. (I got extra sleep so I’m also fond of this memory)

Dexter right before he turned one on the awesome porch

Many hummingbirds spend the cold winter months in Central America or Mexico, and begin migrating North this time of year. Since we live in Northwest Florida, we will be seeing them really soon. We typically see Ruby-throated hummingbirds here. They’re so amazing and beautiful, and I know Matt really looks forward to watching them again with both of our children this year.

Did you know the red dye in hummingbird food is possibly dangerous for these sweet little birds? Don’t worry though, making your own hummingbird food is SO EASY. Dexter helped me make our first batch this year.

Supplies needed:
4 cups of water
1 cup of sugar

My sweet helper

Instructions:
1. Bring water to a boil and remove from heat
2. Stir in sugar until completely dissolved
3. Let water/sugar mixture cool
4. Fill your hummingbird feeder with your mixture and hang up outside

Remember- DO not add red food dye!

Change the food and clean the feeder every 3 to 5 days.

Enjoy watching these amazing birds!

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Practicing Gratitude (Thanks Hannah)

Hello again! I apologize for my blogging absence. We suffered from some serious seasonal allergies and then were super lucky to have a lot of different visitors come to Pensacola.

We had such an awesome visit with these guys!

We love living on the Gulf Coast. The white sand beaches are amazing, and the weather this time of year is perfect. But sometimes it’s tough to be so far away from family. My husbands uncle and his beautiful family came to visit for a long weekend and it was a whirlwind of awesomeness. We went swimming, ate so much good food, and had even more memorable conversations. Their visit left us feeling so grateful for our relationships and the time we got to spend with them.

Dexter and his cousin Keegan

Practicing gratitude is something we have been working on as a family since the start of 2019. Practicing gratitude is regularly taking time to notice and reflect on the things you’re thankful for. Practicing gratitude can significantly increase well-being and life satisfaction.

My awesome sister in law Hannah keeps a gratitude journal. Every single day she writes down the things she is grateful for. Hannah and her journal are what inspired what our family now does.

Dexter and Hannah December 2015

Every month I hang a new large sheet of paper in our kitchen. As a family we talk about what we’re thankful for and write it down. We also talk about why we’re thankful for those things. Some examples are: healthy children, flowers, a home to live in, feeling the sunshine on our skin

Our goal is to each add something every day. (Full disclosure-we don’t actually do it every single day, but we are working on it)

It’s always interesting what Dexter comes up with. I try not to say no to his ideas for what he is thankful for. Sometimes the ideas are strange, like ‘killing mosquitoes’ but I add them anyway because who am I to say what he should be grateful for?

Practicing gratitude is such an easy and important thing to do. It allows us to see how many little (and big) things we have to be thankful for. It is so easy to get caught up in life and forget about how truly blessed we really are. Spending a few minutes every single day thinking and talking about what we are grateful for has been such a good practice for my family. It is definitely something I want to continue past 2019 and teach our sons to always do.

I am truly grateful for learning how to practicing gratitude. Thank you Hannah.

Homemade Vegetable Broth

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We go through a lot of vegetable broth in our home. I use it in soup, when making rice, and other dishes like shepard’s pie and even for simmering vegetables for added flavor.

I have been making homemade vegetable broth for a few years now. It’s SO simple and easy, and saves money.

I start by saving vegetable scraps in a gallon size bag in our freezer. Every time I have vegetable scraps I add them to the bag.

I save things like carrot peels, onion peels and ends, bell pepper scraps, and kale stems. Some people say to not use broccoli, but I personally don’t follow that rule. That’s up to you! I don’t save potato peels, moldy bits, or lettuces.

Once the bag is full, I dump it in our slow cooker. Then I add any fresh herbs we have (parsley, thyme or bay leaves) but if we don’t have any on hand, I don’t worry about this step. I always add some garlic. I like to save and use those tiny pieces that are in the middle of the clove that are too small to peel and chop.

I rinse out the gallon bag, and reuse it again and again for storing my broth veggie scraps.

Once all of the vegetables and herbs have been added I fill the rest of the slow cooker with water.

I personally don’t add any salt or pepper, but this is totally personal preference. If you want to add some, go right ahead!

I cook the veggies on low for about 12 hours. I like to do it overnight. At the end of the 12 hours, I let the broth cool and then strain all of the veggies, seeds, and peels.

And now you have delicious, healthy, and inexpensive vegetable broth! It smells amazing, and tastes so great just on it’s own! I like to just sip on a glass!

At the end of the 12 hours

I like to keep 1 or 2 mason jars in the fridge for easy use, and then freeze the rest in 2 cups portions.

In my slow cooker, this makes about 14 cups of vegetable broth.

Store in the fridge, and use fresh vegetable broth within 4 or 5 days. Frozen broth will keep for about 4 to 6 months.

But wait, there’s more!

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There’s something so sweet and innocent about watching a baby learn to eat. Their fat little faces covered in food and excitement. Waylen had his first food right about the time he turned 6 months. Just like his big brother, his first food was avocado. We mostly use baby led weaning (post about this coming soon) which gives the control of the food to the baby. So we have a lot of messes. I mean A LOT.

Thankfully, we have 2 big dogs who don’t mind cleaning up the big pieces of leftovers. They quickly learned with Dexter to hang around the kitchen (more specifically the high chair) when the baby eats.

But there is still some cleanup that has to take place after the dogs have done their part. The high chair is where most of the mess happens. Wiping down the seat and tray is easy enough. But the cloth straps can never really be wiped clean. After handing a baby a sliced avocado and letting them go to town, the straps are down right nasty.

So if you’ve ever found yourself in a similar baby high chair situation, here is my simple solution.

OxiClean! Did you know that the main active ingredient in OxiClean is actually hydrogen peroxide?


Remember the infomercials years ago?

If you’ve seen OxiClean in the store, you know there are so many different products now. I specifically use the one with a green lid that says versatile stain remover, free. On the EWG website they have given this specific product a ‘B’ rating. Not all of their products have a good rating, so check on this website before you buy!

Environmental Working Group

Back to the cleaning of baby messes!

I just remove the straps from the high chair and let them soak in a small amount of OxiClean for about 20 or 30 minutes. Once they have soaked for about 5 or 10 of those minutes, I scrub them and then let them keep soaking. After about 30 minutes I rinse them in hot water and then let them air dry.

I do this about once a week, and the straps look brand new each time.

So Waylen can keep learning about food and make all the messes he wants. Momma has the power of OxiClean!

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Positive Parroting

Everyone always says that toddlers repeat pretty much anything they hear. And isn’t it funny how it almost always seems to be the bad stuff, we wish they would never repeat? Like the bad words we say when we’re driving? Or the words we shout in pain after we’ve stubbed a toe?

But what about the way we talk about ourselves? Self talk is our internal chatter. The way we talk to ourselves in our minds. Sometimes this talk comes out verbally. Self talk can be positive or negative, and our little ones are listening and learning from everything we say about ourselves.

One day after I got Dexter dressed, I was telling him how handsome I thought he looked. His reply you may ask? “I look gross.”

My heart immediately sank. He without a doubt learned that from me. There have been numerous occasions where I can’t remember the last time I showered or put makeup on, and I am not feeling my most attractive. I have said those exact words to my husband when I’m feeling down about my appearance. And Dexter heard them, remembered them, and then repeated them about himself. My heart broke a little bit when I realized all of this.

I know I’m biased because I’m his mom, but I think Dexter is one of the most beautiful things I have ever laid my eyes on. Not just because he has gorgeous blonde curls, or sparkling hazel eyes. But he is sweet, caring, funny, and intelligent. I make it a point to tell him every single day the things I love about him because I want him to have better self esteem than me.

But that clearly isn’t enough. I have to work on how I think and talk about myself because he is listening to, observing, and absorbing everything I say. The good, the bad, and the gross.

So as strange as it may feel, I am working on using more positive self talk and language. Not just for my kids, but for myself too. Saying good and positive things about ourselves feels uncomfortable. But why? It doesn’t make us conceited, or full of ourselves. It means we love ourselves. And isn’t that pretty important??

I am a good mom. I like my freckles, the color of my eyes, and my smile. And I like that I am working on making myself a better person. That is more of what I want my toddler to hear and repeat. He’s going to parrot what I say anyway, so I might as well make it good!

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I want to be like my baby

It hit me like a bus one afternoon while I was feeding Waylen lunch. I want to be like this kid. He was wearing a red striped shirt with two penguins on it, and he had baby food alllll over his face. He was shoving his fingers in his mouth (thank you teeth for taking FOREVER to come in), and a serious twinkle in his eyes. He is happy. I mean SO damn happy. And I want to learn to be happy like him.

He doesn’t worry about what others think of him. Hell, he doesn’t even know how to worry yet! Can you imagine that? He literally doesn’t even know how to worry. Crazy. He doesn’t worry about what he looks like, or what he wears. How much time do we spend every single day worrying about little things, or things we can’t control? Sure, as adults there are always going to be things we need to take care of, remember to do, or consider for the future. But maybe we can take a lesson from this (STILL) toothless ray of sunshine and worry a little bit less.

Little things make Waylen SO happy. I wish you could see the way his face lights up when he first sees his big brother in the morning. He gets the biggest, sweetest smile on his face when he sees Dexter. And then we get a repeat of the heart melting smiles as soon as he sees his dad. Meanwhile, I’m shuffling my feet along the floor, and grumbling to the boys not to talk too loudly until I’ve had at least a few sips of coffee. Waylen wakes up with a smile on his face, and happily shares his joy with everyone around him.

Do you know what else is great about this baby? He lets you know when something is wrong, if he needs something, or if he’s unhappy. He doesn’t hold it in, or pretend that everything’s sunshine and rainbows. That’s one thing I know I need to work on myself. If something isn’t right, or I’m unhappy about something, I need to speak up about it. Growing up, I often felt like I couldn’t talk about my feelings, or if I didn’t like something. Through years of this conditioning and witnessing others in my life keep quiet about their feelings, I became really good at it too. But this sweet little baby hasn’t experienced any of that. If he’s hungry, he fusses a little bit, and actually has recently started trying to get into my shirt on his own haha

He also doesn’t hold on to anything negative. (Yes, I know, he doesn’t hold on to anything positive right now either) This kid has endured quite a lot in his short life. He has survived a Seriously Crazy family tragedy (that’s another blog post for another day) and then moved across the country and flew on his first airplane at three weeks old. He has moved to two different houses already, and made a middle of the night emergency room trip for a dangerously high fever. That’s just the big stuff. He’s also dealing with all of the normal day to day things a little brother experiences…like big brothers sitting on your head, and squeezing you too tightly when they do try to be sweet to you. He doesn’t dwell on the fact that his life has been slightly unstable so far, or on the fact that his family may or may not be totally insane. He just lets it go and rolls with the punches.

It seems like Waylen’s life is a less complicated, and perhaps easier than mine. People always joke about how all babies do is eat, sleep, and poop. While that may seem true to a degree, especially in those first few months, we know that’s not all babies do. Babies also bring a tremendous amount of joy to our lives, give those lives a whole new meaning. Of course, as we grow up we learn bad habits, pick up negative talk and thoughts, and we lose our innocence. But maybe babies can be a reminder to worry less, focus on being happy and feeling joy every day, speak our truth, and to let the negative things go.

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Letter of the week(s)

After months of me trying to force him into caring, Dexter has recently started showing interest in letters of the alphabet. As a former elementary school teacher, I find myself constantly searching Pinterest for educational activities for Dexter to do at home. A few months ago I stumbled upon the amazing world of sensory bins, and we constantly have one of those going for him. In case you don’t know what sensory bins are, a sensory bin is a plastic tub or a large container filled with materials and objects chosen to stimulate the senses. Some of Dexter’s favorite materials for his sensory bin are dry rice, dry beans, small plastic animals and plenty of cups and spoons for scooping.

Dexter playing with a sensory bin.

So anywayyyy…once Dexter started showing interest in letters I decided to start doing a letter of the week for us to focus on. When I say week, it actually means multiple weeks because I have yet to switch the letter on a weekly basis. Life with a toddler and a 6 month old that has just started to crawl means things frequently get pushed back.

I don’t make our letter of the week too complicated because I know I won’t be able to keep up with complicated.

The letter ‘S’ sensory bin has: rainbow rice (super easy to make), a stegosaurus, plastic snakes, blocks with the letter ‘S’ on them, plastic sharks, seashells, and two foam bath tub letters. (Not pictured are the cups and measuring spoons for scooping and playing)


We always do these things:
a sensory bin filled with lots of things focused on our letter
rent books from the library that star our letter
talk a lot about the letter and what it sounds like
point the letter out to him when I see it (in a book, magazine, on a sign, in a menu, on a shirt, etc.)

Dexter filling the letter ‘D’ with play-doh

If I’m feeling super motivated, I add in one or two of these too:
making letters out of play-doh
writing letters in shaving cream
writing letters on the chalkboard
practicing with letter magnets

That’s it! That’s how easy it is! He has already made progress on identifying letters and isolating/identifying the beginning sounds of words. He’s only three years old, so I don’t expect him to be able to identify every letter of the alphabet or spell his name right now. Right now I am presenting the letters of the alphabet in a fun and comfortable way. If he learns some of the letters, that’s awesome! If he doesn’t remember the letter we’re working on, that’s okay too. My purpose for doing letter of the week(s) is to simply expose him to letters and teach him about their sounds and what they look like. I am not expecting him to be some kind of letter genius and remember every single letter and their sound.

As I’ve mentioned before I’m not saying that I’m an expert on what I write about on this blog. This is just what’s worked for us and our family so far, and I like to share. Have you done any of these activities with your kids? Do you have any letter activities or advice about toddler alphabet activities that you would like to share? Drop them in the comments to share with everyone!

YAY for letters!
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Quick and Easy (and healthy) Homemade Popcorn

Popcorn has been one of our family’s favorite go to snacks for years. Not only is it delicious but it’s also healthy and easy to make. Popcorn is 100% whole grain, gluten free, full of insoluble fiber (helps keep you full and keep things moving), and it’s low in fat and calories.

My easy to follow recipe is much healthier for you than microwave popcorn. A chemical coating used in microwave popcorn bags breaks down when heated into a substance called perfluorooctanoic (PFOA). The Environmental Protection Agency has identified PFOA as a “likely carcinogen”.
Um…No thank you.

And have you ever heard of “popcorn workers lung”? It’s a debilitating respiratory disease that microwave popcorn factory employees can get. It’s caused by extended inhalation of a chemical found in the fake butter flavor. Now, I know, I know…when you pop microwave popcorn you’re probably not inhaling very much of the butter flavor. But is that really something you want to eat and put in your body?

My recipe only takes a short while to make and is a lot more fun to watch pop, especially with kids!

I definitely recommend buying and using organic kernels. This means the corn was grown without the use of chemical pesticides, chemical or non-organic growth agents or additives.

Sneaky toddler hand grabbing a taste

Let’s get poppin’

Ingredients-
2 tablespoons organic coconut oil
1/2 cup organic popcorn kernels
pink Himalayan salt for sprinkling to taste

In a large sauce pan warm the coconut oil over medium heat. Once the oil is melted and warmed, add 2 or 3 kernels. Once those first kernels have popped, add the remaining kernels. Cover the pan and gently shake it. Once the kernels have started popping, you need to shake the pan every 15-30 seconds to prevent burning.

Once the popping has dramatically slowed down, remove the pan from heat, and pour your popcorn into a serving bowl. Sprinkle with a little pink Himalayan salt, and enjoy! (I recommend enjoying while warm to experience the full deliciousness)

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What does “crunchy” mean anyway?

Topanga Lawrence- the crunchy OG

A quick Google search of “crunchy mom” will give you many results. The biggest piece most of them have in common is moms living a more natural life. That’s the beginning of most crunchy journeys. Wanting to live a natural life that is healthiest for yourself, your family and for the environment.

People who consider themselves crunchy might (being crunchy is not an all or nothing thing) take part in:
vegan/vegetarian/pescatarian/all organic diet
essential oils
breastfeeding
baby wearing
cloth diapering
gardening/farming
co-sleeping
unmediated childbirth
home-birth
alternative/holistic medicine
natural/chemical free products
composting

There are so many more things that could be added to this list, but I’m sure you get the idea.

My journey into the crunchy life

For myself, and a lot of other women I know, my journey for a more natural life really began when I found myself pregnant with my first son, Dexter. I was already a vegetarian who liked to shop at the farmer’s market, but
I still found myself questioning things I had never thought about before.

“What’s in this lotion? Are there chemicals in it that I don’t want the baby to get?”

“Is this lettuce organic?”

“What does organic really mean? What’s a GMO?”

“Is our water clean enough? What’s really in our water anyway?”

“HOW LONG does it take for a disposable diaper to decompose??”

The questions just kept coming the further along I got in my pregnancy. I started reading more and more pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding books. I couldn’t imagine the pain of actually pushing a baby out of my body, but I also couldn’t imagine the consequences of an epidural either. So I decided that an unmediated, low intervention childbirth with a midwife was the way to go for me.

And the rest, as they say, is history. Our crunchy life just sort of snowballed from there. We started keeping our own chickens, I breastfed my oldest son until he was 18 months, and we use essential oils, coconut oil, or apple cider vinegar for pretty much any ailment.

Like I said before, being crunchy isn’t an all or nothing thing. At least the way I see it, as long as you are making conscious decisions to live a greener, cleaner, more natural and healthy life, then you’re in the club.

The BEST honey balsamic dressing recipe

I am a huge fan of making things yourself at home when you can. Its not realistic to expect to be able to make everything from scratch…you would never have time to do anything else! Making one or two things at home is a great place to start, and will give you some confidence that you can be a crunchy mama! Some super easy things to start with are granola, popsicles, and salad dressing.

When you make things from scratch, you know exactly what you’re eating. There are no hidden ingredients, preservatives, or toxins. Processed foods are filled with toxins that can are linked to adhd, ulcers, weight gain, heart disease, diabetes, and several types of cancer. Those are things I want to avoid for myself and my family, so I make a conscious effort to feed my family healthy, whole, organic foods.

Salad dressings you buy at the store are normally filled with extra sugar, high fructose corn syrup, food dyes, and more unwanted ingredients.
Sodium benzoate is a commonly added to salad dressings and other condiments as a preservative. In several studies, sodium benzoate has been linked to increased rates of ADHD.

Removing all processed foods from your diet is unrealistic, but you can make small, healthy changes every day!

I know that sometimes processed salad dressings may seem convenient, but my honey balsamic dressing takes just minutes to throw together and tastes amaaaaazing.

You can also save money making things at home! For this salad dressing, I always have these ingredients on hand, so I don’t have to spend any extra money.

This is by far my favorite salad dressing. I actually crave salads with this dressing. (Like your mouth watering kind of craving)

This dressing has local raw honey, and raw garlic. Both are AMAZING for your health!

All you do, is add the following ingredients together in a jar with a tight fitting lid, and shake! This recipe makes about 6 servings.

Ingredients:

  • 1/4 cup balsamic vinegar
  • 1/2 cup olive oil
  • 2 tablespoons local honey
  • 2 teaspoons mustard (dijon or grey pupon)
  • 1 clove of garlic- crushed
  • Pinch of salt and pepper

Add all ingredients to a jar with a lid and shake until combined, and enjoy!!

Please let me know if you make this dressing and what you think of it!

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Are you washing yourself in chemicals?

Soap is supposed to help keep us clean and healthy, right?

Trick question, because it depends on what kind of soap you’re using.

Antibacterial soap may not be healthy for us. “In 2016, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) banned the use of 19 chemicals used in antiseptic products. These include triclosan used in antibacterial liquid soaps (as well as toothpastes, body washes and some cosmetics) and triclocarban used in hand soaps. Some evidence suggests that these two chemicals can disrupt hormone cycles and cause muscle weakness.”

These chemicals have also been linked to infertility.

Some studies also suggest that the use of antibacterial soap reduces the amount of good bacteria we have in and on our bodies. We need our good bacteria!

Please do yourself a favor and check what’s in your soap!! You will be shocked to see what you may be using to “clean” your body.

Our family loves and trusts Dr. Bronner’s soaps. We have been using this soap for years, and seriously love it.

Their castile soap is concentrated, and can be diluted and used for cleaning pretty much everything in your home. I love finding products that are healthy for my family that I can use in multiple ways around the home. We have used Dr. Bronner’s castile soap for mopping, our hands, our bodies in the shower, and dishes.

My love for their Organic Sugar Soap is seriously strong. It’s what we are currently using for handsoap at all of our sinks, and we are also using it for washing our kids in the bath. This soap uses fair trade and organic sugar plus organic white grape juice keeps hands-face-body-hair clean and nourished.

Their soap is very “green” and the ingredients are safe, clean, and organic.

They also have tons of other clean and nontoxic products that I can’t wait to try!

#metoo

This blog post has been weighing heavily on me. It isn’t crunchy or mom realted and I was unsure if I even wanted to share it, but ultimately (obviously) I decided to. In the spring of 2012, I was sexually assaulted. This blog post discusses that event and what followed. If for any reason, you do not want to read this post, please don’t read any further.

When I was 22 years old, I was sexually assaulted. By someone that I thought was my friend, we’ll call him Ron. I had known Ron for almost 10 years. We went to middle and high school together. We hung out as teenagers. A group of us used to hang out in his basement as kids. He had kissed my best friend.

I trusted Ron, and he took advantage of me while I was sleeping. We went out to a couple of bars together, and I went back to his house to sleep it off before driving home. I woke up to my pants unbuttoned and his unwanted touch.

I’m not going to go into excruciating detail about how exactly Ron assaulted me, because to me, that’s not the point of this post.

My reason for disclosing this story is to share who deeply it hurt when people didn’t believe me about the assault. And how deeply it hurt when people judged me for what happened.

It hurt so much more deeply than you might think it would. Growing up in a very conservative and religious home, I was taught that sexuality was bad. That women are supposed to cover their bodies and be virgins until they get married. Although I wasn’t a virgin anymore, I still felt a lot of shame and embarrassment in sharing what happened to me. Like I had done something wrong.

I had my own stepmom tell me that it wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t been drinking. Like my drinking was an open invitation to my vagina.

I had a friend completely delete me out of her life because she didn’t believe me. She had also been friends with Ron, and somehow, chose his “side”.

These people added so much salt to my open wound.

I didn’t want what happened to me to happen to any other women. So the next day, I reported it to the police. Ultimately they decided there wasn’t much they could do legally with my case. However, Ron did escalate in his behavior and a short while later, he raped. The woman reported it, and charges were pressed against him. After years of legal hoops, drama, and battles, Ron is now in jail for the rape.

Because I reported what happened, and the rape he commited, it all ended up in the newspaper. People I went to high school with didn’t know part of the article was about me, but still said I was a liar. They commented on the online article that I was a liar and a slut. They said there was no way that’s what happened. They said I must have misunderstood what happened. Like it’s easy to misunderstand someone’s hand in your pants.

Admitting you were assaulted is scary, difficult, and embarrassing. Then add to that people may not believe you, or may shame you. This is only part of the reason that only 20-30% of sexual assaults get reported.

So if someone in your life tells you that they have been sexually assaulted, please believe them. Odds are, you already know someone who has been sexually assaulted. Every 92 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted.

Now, I feel much more comfortable talking about what happened to me years ago. I have learned so much more about myself, and I am in an extremely loving and happy marriage. My husband is supportive and a wonderful listener. Assault victims need to be given safe spaces to talk about their experiences.

It’s never too late to talk about your experiences. Friends and family are a great place to start. There are therapists, hotlines, and support groups. Most importantly, you need to know that you’re certainly not alone.

https://www.rainn.org/get-help

http://ncdsv.org/ncd_linkshotlines.html

Let’s be honest

Today, I’m going to share one of our longstanding favorite crunchy products! We have used this product since the birth of our first son, who almost 4 years old.

The Organic All-Purpose Balm (formly called Organic Healing Balm) from the Honest Company is a staple in our home, and we never go without it. It costs $12.17 on Amazon for 3.4 ounces.

We use this balm for diaper rash, chapped lips, dry skin, random bumps and rashes. It clears up these things and more really quickly. We prefer to use this balm instesd of petroleum jelly, or diaper rash creams. These products can be filled with seriously toxic and dangerous chemicals.

It has a rating of two from the Think Dirty App. This is on a scale from 0-10. If you don’t have the app yet, go download it right now! You won’t regret it!

The Honest Company has not always been squeeky clean and honest about their products, so some people may feel unsure about supporting them. We love this product so much that we still choose to purchase it.

As always, I recommend for you to do your research and make an informed choice for you and your family.

Snackies Lunch

As a parent of a toddler, I’ve quickly learned that my life is a lot easier if I let Dexter make small choices throughout the day. I give him options and he decides what he wants. It lets him feel like he has some control, while still allowing me to put some limitations on things. Almost every single day for lunch, I offer Dexter a couple of choices. Some of these choices include peanut butter and jelly, grilled cheese, macaroni and cheese, random leftovers, and his current favorite…snackies lunch.

Carrots and hummus, blackberries, sliced cheddar cheese, and fruit pouch

Snackies lunch is just a term we started using for lunch that is made up of random little snacks. Just like every other toddler, Dexter goes through phases of loving certain foods and meals. Right now, he is very into snackies lunch.

Mozzarella cheese stick, dill pickle, trail mix, celery with peanut butter, fruit pouch

Mom likes snackies lunch because I don’t really have to do much. I throw some random things on a plate and call it a meal. Dexter seriously gets excited when I put something new on the plate. I tell him to close his eyes and that it’s a surprise. Adding this suspense makes a big difference in his interest in eating.

Roasted seaweed, berries, yogurt, veggies and hummus

I typically try to make sure lunch always has at least 1 vegetable. Of course there are days when I fail at this. One super easy way we incorporate veggies into Dexter’s meals, is with bags of frozen organic vegetables. I buy bags of organic frozen mixed veggies, peas, and green beans. I thaw them in a mug of hot water while I prepare everything else. I thaw them like this because Dexter hates when his food is too warm. I’ve learned that by thawing them in hot water, they will be the perfect toddler temperature.

Mixed veggies, kalamata olives, dill pickle, berries, cucumber and hummus, mozzarella cheese stick, cashews

Here are some of my favorite snackies lunch items:

  • Frozen veggies
  • Nuts
  • Dried/roasted seaweed
  • Cheese sticks
  • Veggies and hummus
  • Yogurt
  • Applesauce
  • Baked chickpeas
  • Beet chips
  • Kale chips
  • Sugar snap peas
  • Berries
  • Pears
  • Oranges
  • Pickles
  • Kalamata olives
  • Trail mix
  • Celery with peanut butter

This possibilities for snackies lunch are seriously endless.

This is also a great way to introduce new things to your children. Since you’re only giving them a small amount of something, they may not feel intimidated of scared. Everything else on the plate can be things they know and love, and then you add one new thing. Tell your child they only have to try one bite of the new thing. This motto has been tremendously helpful with Dexter. We’ve literally been doing it for years now, so he knows he must take at least 1 bite of everything on his plate. More often than not, he likes the new thing. And if he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t have to eat any more of it.

Trail mix, mixed veggies, yogurt, clementine

We also do snackies dinner whenever the adults are eating something that is definitely too spicy for the kids. We really make it a point in our family that we all eat the same meal for dinner, and that Dexter doesn’t get to throw a fit and get something special. But Dexter thinks pepper is too spicy, so sometimes he gets lucky with a special snackies dinner.

The truth about being a SAHM

I’m going to say the thing I’m not supposed to say…being a stay at home mom sucks. Of course not always, but definitely sometimes.

As a stay at home mom (SAHM), I think it’s very common to feel like we shouldn’t complain. We’re supposed to feel lucky. There are so many moms out there who wish they could be stay at home moms so I’m supposed to pretend every day at home is magical. Of course most days at home with my boys are great. I am very grateful that I get to spend so much time with my kids. We get to read books, go on walks, play at parks and do plenty of other fun things together.

I feel like I’m not supposed to complain or talk about how some days are a serious struggle. Since I choose to stay home, I feel like I shouldn’t. It’s almost like an unspoken expectation from society of stay at home moms.

But can I be honest? This stay at home mom shit is hard. Some days I’m up with the baby at 5:30 in the morning and then our day runs until 7:30 at night. Sometimes I’m really lucky and can synch up nap times and get 30 minutes to myself during the day. Otherwise, I go for over 12 hours. I use the bathroom, shower, and do everything and anything else with 2 little humans following me. I share every bite of food, wipe noses and tears, wash dishes and fold laundry with two little boys hanging off of me. I argue with a toddler about brushing teeth, not peeing in the front yard, and explain more times than I know that we DO NOT go fishing for little brothers. My days become a blur of dishes, diapers, vacuuming, and boogers.

I don’t get mandated breaks, or lunch times. I don’t get any praise or recognition for keeping two little humans alive all day every day.

Being a stay at home mom means my needs are often put last, and I’m exhausted and covered in someone elses bodily fluids at the end of the day. But that’s okay, because my babies won’t be babies forever. One day, they won’t need me as much.

So for now, I wake up every single day and get thrown right back into it. Some days are harder than others. Some days I call my husband crying because no one will nap and I’m afraid I’m going to snap. Some days are great and I miss my babies as soon as they go to bed. The good days are so sweet. We spend these days laughing, playing, learning and growing together.

The good days most definitely outweigh the bad. I am very grateful that my husband works as hard as he does so I can be with our kids so much. Like with any job, there are good days, and bad days, and just because I acknowledge the bad, doesn’t mean I’m not thankful, it just means I’m human.